The Power of Asking Yourself Questions

Kevin Thomas
4 min readJul 31, 2020
How to ask yourself better questions

The Power of Asking Yourself Questions

“What if…?” — Just two words but the answer to this question could change your world!

Questions form a daily part of life and business. We ask other people questions frequently.

We ask questions to collect information: to understand, to learn, and to help solve problems.

Being mindful of the questions you ask other people can make a huge difference to your life, business and career.

Many years ago, back in my IT sales role I noticed that I often asked clients ‘closed’ questions — these are questions that invite a “yes” or “no” answer.

For example, “Are you ready to start the project?”. The answer to this question provided me with limited information — typically just a “yes” or “no”. A more helpful question would have been “When will you start the project?” or “What needs to be in place before you start the project?”.

These questions are examples of ‘open’ questions which do not invite a “yes” or “no” answer. ‘Open’ questions tend to be higher quality questions because they provide more useful information. From that point I increased my use of them!

Asking Yourself Questions

We don’t go through life just asking other people questions, we also ask ourselves questions.

We do this when we think. Thinking includes asking ourselves questions. These questions help us to evaluate, compare and measure.

For example — we may evaluate our situation, compare ourselves to others and so on. Many of these thoughts can be on ‘autopilot’- they can be habitual thoughts — and research suggests on average we have 60,000 thoughts every day!

When we ask ourselves (think) a poor-quality question, we get a poor-quality answer. This contributes to lowering our mood and if we get into a habit of asking (thinking) poor quality questions — this can create a negative mindset.

Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?”

Shannon L. Alder



Kevin Thomas

Helping small business owners to find direction, develop focus, confidence and drive | Business & Life Coach